A few weeks ago, I came across a post by LaCara of Oh La La Curves and I loved it. Â I invited her over to share her thoughts and elaborate a bit more on this topic which rang true to me, AND along the theme of this blog. Curvy.Conifdent.Chic.
Please welcome Guest blogger, LaCaraâ€¦
Fat is not a feeling.
“I feel Fat”, is what most women say to themselves when they are having an “off” day.
Newsflash: “Fat” is not a feeling!
Feelings are abstract, you can’t touch them, unlike fat, which you can definitelyÂ touch and see.Â It seems that this has become the catch phrase for many women when theyÂ feel low,Â lonely, unhappy, sad etc.Â Instead of actuallyÂ dealing with howÂ you feel,Â you’re lying to yourself about feeling something you cannot feel, either you’reÂ fat or you’re not.Â The mainstream media has drilled it into thousands of women’s minds, that being fat is bad.Â Well ladies, that is a lie, negative feelings or thoughts (lonely, unhappy, unhealthy, etc) is not synonymous to being fat, all those things is strictly down to the individual, for example, just because your skinny doesn’t mean you’re going to be happy.
Instead of pushing the negative things you feel into a corner, you need to address them, for the simple reason is, if you’re not honest with yourself how do you expect others to be honest with you and vice versa. Â So ladies the next time you’re having “one of those days” where you’re not feeling your usual self and you’re about to utter that sentence, take a moment to actually assess how you feel, address those feelings and be honest. Â I guarantee that you’ll start to think differently and be able to get know yourself better, because your being honest to yourself.
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