Buying lingerie for your plus size lover can be a beautiful gesture—if done right! But nothing says “I tried” like picking out something two sizes too big or too small. Have no fear! We have more than a few tips when it comes to buying plus size lingerie for your significant other! To help you nail the perfect pick, we spoke with Chrystal Bougon, former owner of Curvy Girl Lingerie and current owner of BlissConnection.com.
With years of experience in the plus size lingerie industry, Chrystal has guided countless shoppers to find the perfect fit. Here, she shares her top tips for buying that perfect Valentine’s Day lingerie that will make your partner feel sexy, confident, and comfortable.
7 Tips for Buying Lingerie For Your Plus Size Lover
1. Pay Attention to Her Favorite Colors and Styles
“One of the first things I tell shoppers is to look at the colors their partner loves to wear. Black isn’t the only option! Does she gravitate toward jewel tones, pastels, or bold reds? Pay attention to what she wears on date nights or when she’s feeling her best. That’ll give you a clue about what she feels sexy in.”
2. Take a Sneaky Peek at Her Underwear Drawer
“A quick glance in her underwear drawer can tell you a lot! Does she prefer cheeky shorts, boyshorts, thongs, or bikinis? Skip the granny panties—those are for comfort, not seduction. The key is finding something that aligns with her preferences so she’ll actually enjoy wearing it.”
3. Check the Sizes on the Labels (and Look at the Right Ones!)
“Size matters! When checking her underwear and bras, make sure you’re looking at the ones she wears often—the ones at the front of the drawer. The ones buried in the back might be old favorites that no longer fit. And when it comes to bras, you’ll need both the band size (a number) and the cup size (a letter or letters). Remember, bras stretch out over time, so make sure you’re noting the newer ones.”
4. Know Her Clothing Size for a Better Fit
“Beyond just lingerie, knowing her dress, blouse, and pant sizes can make shopping so much easier. If you walk into a store and tell a sales associate, ‘She wears a size 18 in pants and a size 22 on top,’ they’ll have a much better chance of helping you find something that fits and flatters. And trust me, that’s going to make the moment even more special.”
5. Consider Her Personal Style (Not Just What You Want to See)
“Lingerie is about making her feel good. If she loves soft, romantic lace, don’t surprise her with an edgy leather corset—at least not yet. Start with something in her comfort zone. Once she feels confident, you can always introduce pieces that match your fantasy later on—maybe for your birthday!”
6. Think About Comfort and Fabric Choices
“Before you buy, ask yourself: ‘Does this look comfortable?’ Itchy, scratchy lace is not sexy when it’s making her uncomfortable! Quality fabrics that feel good on the skin will make a huge difference. If you’re unsure, ask a sales associate for guidance. A comfortable piece means she’ll want to wear it again and again.”
7. Know Her Height to Avoid Sizing Mishaps
“Height can play a big role in how lingerie fits. If she’s petite, an extra-long chemise might overwhelm her frame, while a taller partner might struggle with a piece that’s too short. Knowing her height helps ensure you’re picking something that complements her body perfectly.”
Bonus Tip: Opt for Easier Styles Over Corsets
“Corsets and bustiers require precise sizing, so unless you know her exact measurements, they can be tricky. If you’re unsure, go for a baby doll, chemise, slip, or robe. These styles are much more forgiving and have a much higher success rate when it comes to fit.”
Buying lingerie for your plus size lover can be a stressful endeavor, but with these tips at your fingertips, you should be able to shop with a bit more confidence! At the end of the day, Chrystal says, “If you follow these tips, not only will you be giving your partner something sexy to wear, but you’ll also be showing her that you see her, appreciate her, and care about what makes her feel good. And trust me, that effort won’t go unnoticed.”
Chrystal is the owner of BlissConnection.com, her tasteful online romance store and home pleasure party business, which she started in 2003.
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