• About
  • Advertise
  • FAQs
  • Contact
Tuesday, May 20, 2025
Subscribe
The Curvy Fashionista
  • Style
  • Wellness
  • Lifestyle
  • Entertainment
  • Curvy CEO
  • Shop TCF
  • Events Calendar
  • The Plus Directory
No Result
View All Result
  • Style
  • Wellness
  • Lifestyle
  • Entertainment
  • Curvy CEO
  • Shop TCF
  • Events Calendar
  • The Plus Directory
No Result
View All Result
The Curvy Fashionista
No Result
View All Result

The Only New Yearโ€™s Resolution to Make in 2017โ€ฆ

Stop failing yourselfย by February and rock 2017 withย just oneย resolution.

The Curvy Confidence Coach by The Curvy Confidence Coach
8 years ago
Reading Time: 5 mins read
A A
5
plus size woman reading
330
SHARES
Share on FacebookShare on Twitter

Itโ€™s that time again. One year coming to a close, a fresh new year full of promise just days away.ย Itโ€™s also that time when women everywhere are starting to plan their resolution.

โ€œ2017 is the year, girl. THIS is the year where Iโ€™m finally gonna do it. Iโ€™m finally gonna get my s*&t together. Iโ€™m finally gonna fix myself. New Year, new me.โ€

We make our lists. Check them twice. Weโ€™ve already decided weโ€™ve been naughty. And this is how weโ€™re gonna make up for it.

(hint: itโ€™s not usually that nice).

RelatedPosts

Belly Out, Doubts Out: My Crop Top Life at a Size 24

Unlock a Better Self Care Routine: 6 Easy Tips for a Stress-Free You

10 Ways To Embrace Your Sensuality Beyond Valentineโ€™s Day

The Only New Year's Resolution to Make in 2017...

Every year, I used to make my lists.ย From weight loss goals and plans like going to the gym 3 times per week or paying off X amount of debt.

Except by the time February rolled around, it would all go out the window, and Iโ€™d quietly tear up my list and decide to try again next year. So many resolutions broken along with my self-confidence. And year after year, I still wouldnโ€™t be any healthier or happier.

So why do we keep doing it? And why are they so hard to keep?

Some would say we all lack will-power, discipline, motivation, or that we donโ€™t want it enough.ย 

Or the most common one I hear is โ€œIโ€™m just so busyโ€.

So why do we REALLY find a resolution or two so hard to stick to?ย 

The problem is they donโ€™t usually come from a very self-loving place.

The Only New Year's Resolution to Make in 2017...ย 

โ€œTonightโ€™s the last night I drink! Iโ€™m taking a month off! No more empty calories.โ€

โ€œI ate so much over the holidays, you guys, seriously itโ€™s so bad. But 2017 is a New Year right?โ€

โ€œI just got this new gym membership and I swear Iโ€™m finally gonna whoop my ass into shape this year.โ€

โ€œIโ€™m done spending my money on stupid crap, THIS year Iโ€™m gonna get out of debt.โ€

Did those sound like they came from a place of love?

Yeah, I didnโ€™t think so either.

A resolution is usually something we think we should do to fit in or make others happy, and they usually come from feeling shame or feeling not good enough.ย 

And queen Brene Brown tells us that change motivated by shame never works.

โ€œIf we want meaningful, lasting change we need toโ€ฆ call for an end to shame as tool for change.โ€

Change needs to come from loving ourselves so much that weโ€™re inspired to take better care of ourselves, not shaming ourselves because we believe thereโ€™s something wrong with us.

Resolutions usually come from a place of being really hard on ourselves and focusing on whatโ€™s not working.ย So we set ourselves up to make a lot of overwhelming changes all at once because we buy into this idea that THIS year things will be different.

The Only New Year's Resolution to Make in 2017...But we canโ€™t make real lasting changes in our lives unless we do it out of self-love.

The number one thing Iโ€™ve learned about self-love is that it doesnโ€™t come when we lose those 20 pounds, it doesnโ€™t come when we get another job, and it doesnโ€™t come when we finally find a man (or woman!).ย 

And it definitely doesnโ€™t come when you fail yourself year after year.

It comes when you show up for yourself, and honor yourself, with love EVERY DAY, not just once a year.

So letโ€™s stop setting ourselves up for failure, yeah? Instead of trying to shame yourself into change, bring in a dose of self-love everyday and see what magic happens.

The only resolution you need to make this year is to love yourself.ย 

Here are the top 5 things you can do every day to love yourself this year.

  1. Be you, unapologetically. Stop worrying about what other people will think and just start doing you. Being inauthentic to avoid judgement or rejection erodes your sense of self. It might be scary at first. People might look at you funny. But the more brave you are to express yourself authentically, the more true to yourself youโ€™ll feel. And the more youโ€™ll find people in your life who love you for you, not for who youโ€™re trying to be.
  2. Be like teflon. It can be too easy to let other peopleโ€™s comments and behavior get to us. From moms to bosses to boyfriends. We use the little digs or completely innocent comments as evidence to beat ourselves up over.
  3. Collect evidence of your awesome. Most of the time we collect evidence of why we suck โ€“ from our bodies to our careers weโ€™re super hard on ourselves and we let other peopleโ€™s comments and behavior get to us. Start collecting evidence that you are awesome! Write down compliments, successes, and accomplishments. Keep a running list on a chalk board or a journal and come back to it when you need to.ย 
  4. Stop comparing yourself to others. From how your body looks to what kind of job you have to being single, comparing and despairing about where you are in life compared to others will only leave you in a slump.
  5. Start a daily gratitude practice. Every day make a list of all the things youโ€™re grateful for. Even just start with three. Gratitude has a powerful way of helping you see whatโ€™s working. And when you see whatโ€™s working, you find love.ย 

I promise if you do those five things, youโ€™re gonna rock this New Year like never before.

unique-new-years-resolutions

Letโ€™s make 2017 different.

Letโ€™s make 2017 the year of self-love.

Do you have any tips or ways youโ€™ve learned to love yourself? Any certain resolution youโ€™re going for? Put them in the comments! Iโ€™d love to hear whatโ€™s worked for you!ย 

Continue Reading
Tags: New years eveself acceptanceself love
Share131Tweet82
The Curvy Confidence Coach

The Curvy Confidence Coach

Related Posts

plus size women's 5k
Plus Size Fitness

Strut Your Plus! The Plus Strut 5K Run / Walk: The Curviest 5K is Back and Bigger Than Ever

by Nino Reyes
April 3, 2025 - Updated on May 19, 2025
fat and plus-size characters

Because We Love a Great Book, Here are 10+ Plus Size Centered Must-Reads!ย 

by Brianne
April 1, 2025 - Updated on May 19, 2025
Maui Bigelow curator of PHAT Girl fresh
Above 3X

Body Talk: How To Look Like You Have A Waist Although Youโ€™re Shaped Like An Apple (Like Me)

by Editorial Staff
June 30, 2016 - Updated on May 16, 2025
Swimsuits for All x KingSize Summer 19 Swim Campaign
Style News

Swimsuits For All x KingSize Partner Up for an Every.Body.Counts Summer Campaign

by Marie Denee
April 30, 2019 - Updated on May 16, 2025
Rethinking Rest: Why a Wellness Retreat Might Be the Vacation Your Soul (and Body) Really Needs
Wellness

Rethinking Rest: Why a Wellness Retreat Might Be the Vacation Your Soul (and Body) Really Needs

by Marie Denee
April 28, 2025
What Is Inclusive Fitness? How All Bodies Can Take Up Space
Lifestyle

Ditch the Diet Culture: 5 Fierce Plus Size Fitness Influencers You Need on Your Timeline

by Brianne
March 27, 2025 - Updated on April 25, 2025
Next Post
Plus size bloggers of 2016

The Top 12 Breakout Personal Style Plus Size Bloggers for 2016!

Comments 5

  1. Heydi says:
    8 years ago

    Hi Curvy Fashionista!

    You gave the best advice ever! And you know what is so awesome about that is I came to those conclusions myself a few years back. God is amazing. You have to love who you are; itโ€™s a requirement because people will always have to something negative or positive to say. And those opinions belong to them not you, so stop taking those apples and get your own.Self-love is the key that opens the happiness door and there is so much power in that room. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Reply
  2. Yareally says:
    8 years ago

    In 2016 I liked to score with the under 25s, so would go out to what I called โ€œkiddie clubsโ€, and dance with the girls who looked like they used fake id to get in. Iโ€™m 36, so for 2017 Iโ€™m going to stop doing this. Wish me luck!

    Reply
  3. Brandy J says:
    8 years ago

    I love this blog. It reminds me Iโ€™m a pillar of confidence those times I occasionally forget.

    Reply
  4. JILL Rivera says:
    8 years ago

    Fur Francesca Pleather Plus Size Jacket I like the fur along the hood.

    Reply
  5. Nekeyeta Newkirk says:
    8 years ago

    love this! Yes, by February itโ€™s like the resolutions never occurred. There has got to be a better way! and I am determined to find it, master it, and slay! Self love is the key in 2017 and a technique I use in demonstrating is making sure I make time for myself. We spend a lot of time spreading ourselves so thin and giving to others that we forget to make time for us and just relax. More of that in 2017, most definitely!

    Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

I agree to the Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy.

What are you looking for?

No Result
View All Result

What's Popular Now

  • What plus-size people actually wore to NYFW

    What Plus Size People Actually Wore To New York Fashion Week

    1552 shares
    Share 617 Tweet 386
  • The Dividing Truth Behind B Bellies

    2786 shares
    Share 1093 Tweet 683
  • Who Is Sara Milliken? Learn All About the 2024 National American Miss Alabama!

    457 shares
    Share 179 Tweet 112
  • Plus Size Little White Dress: Your Spring Style? We Just Upgraded It

    422 shares
    Share 163 Tweet 102
  • On Styling a Stomach: To Tuck Or Not To Tuck

    2604 shares
    Share 358 Tweet 224

The Curvy Fashionista is THE plus size fashion media platform dedicated to celebrating plus size folks with curves, confidence, style, and smarts; covering the latest in plus size fashion news.

Company

  • About
  • Team TCF
  • Advertise
  • Contribute
  • Contact

Info

  • Plus Size FAQs
  • Plus Size Resources
  • Privacyย 
  • Sitemap
No Result
View All Result
  • Style
  • Beauty
  • Wellness
  • Lifestyle
  • Curvy CEO
  • Editorโ€™s Desk
  • Lifestyle
  • Shop TCF
  • Contact
  • About The Curvy Fashionista

ยฉ 2008- 2025 ยท by TCFStyle Media ยท All Rights Reserved ยท

This website uses cookies. By continuing to use this website you are giving consent to cookies being used. Visit our Privacy and Cookie Policy.