It has been a minute since I have done an ask the reader post. I love hearing from you guys- you are quite the sharp and resourceful bunch.
So today, I had been thinking, doing a bit of self inventory and realized, I am terrified of skater skirts and I used to be afraid of showing my midriff, used to be. If you have been following me on Facebook, I touched on this before.
I love the look of both of them, but for some unknown reason, I get extreme pause to actually step into one. I have bought more than a few of these items, to try to push myself out of my fear, to no avail.
Until now!
Maybe this comes from my years as a cheerleader and they are wayyyyy too familiar. Or maybe it is because I am a little older and they (skater skirts) read a bit younger than I am… I really do admire the style and the many ways they have been worn, BUT DAMMIT.
Showing my midriff?
I can hear my mother in my head scorning me about this… LOLOL
I CAN’T. I think I am scared. OR, maybe, I am believing the lies in my head…
I don’t want to show too much of my business. I dunno. LOL. I am stuck here.
Which had me thinking, I wanted to know if I was alone in being so apprehensive in trying something new.
So I ask you today, what item are you the most afraid of wearing?
Do you think we could overcome this fear together? If enough of you decide to face your own item that you dread or fear wearing, I will do it too! Maybe we could hashtag it? I dunno.
I am with you on this Marie! I was terrified to try the Skater skirt because of the “Donk” I have! I am afraid it will show the world what the good lord gave me back there lol But I went ahead and bought one that I have been eyeing from ASOS for a long time now.I tired it on and it actually hit me right above the knee. But I find myself just taking it off and putting something else on. I am thinking of putting it on this week and going out with it on…. Fingers crossed I actually let myself do it lol
Let’s do it! I am going to find me one to buy and play in! I will make this work! 🙂 LOLOLOL
I love it!!! lol When you get your piece it would be so cool to collab on our blogs about it! 🙂
I am sooo here for this! 🙂
Omg I was scared of it too. But just last week I said eff it and finally bought one. I did an OOTD with it and that outfit post exploded on Tumblr for me and got some insane attention. People have responded so well to it… I’m starting to think skater skirts were designed for plus size girls.
Seriously, put that thing on and #werk! 😉
WERK it boo! I wanna see pics!!!
Definitely pencil skirts! I feel that if I use them, my hips and belly will look horrible… But I would love to wear them 🙁
You can do it! It is all about fit, where your top hits with this and then where the skirt hits!
Yess I saw you in that skirt and you rocked it. Your are one of the reasons why I am going to rock mine with confidence! 🙂
High-waisted pants. I have a short torso and the dreaded spare tire, so I feel a bit like a Scotch egg!
Oh nooO! It is all about proportions with those! 🙂 I dare you to try it on at least! 🙂
Crop tops or ‘Show your stomach’ as my people will say and mini skirts!! I don’t think I have the confidence for it. Smh!
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We gotta face our fears… I am going to get me a skater skirt and try to make it work! Can you try too! LOL 🙂
Good..lets do this thang!! lol! I will try it Marie.. 🙂
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Bodycon dresses. I have seen some in plus size that are very well cut and I’ve tried on some that look nice but ultimately I’m always like hmmmm….maybe not for me and go pick up that wrap or ruched dress. Sadness!
Let’s do it! I believe you can! I promise! 🙂 Let’s go!
Skinny Jeans. I think my thighs are too large for them. But they look so cute on so many different people. The jeans I wear normally are super tight on my thighs, but I just can’t do the skinny jeans. I fear my legs will look like chicken drumsticks.
NOPE. Go for it… I am going to face my fear, playing with a few options over the weekend to buy! With your skinny jeans, all that matters is your fit, and the rest of the outfit too! 🙂 You can do it! I am going ot try and face my fear- you can do it too!
Skater skirts for me too!! My butt hikes everything up in the back, so I’m scared that a skater skirt will have all of my business in the streets! lol
Skater skirts don’t work for me either. I have a shelf butt and any skirt that flares out ends up higher in the back than the front. I’m not afraid of it, it just doesn’t work for my body. My solution is a skater dress that hits just at the knee. I get the style but in a much more flattering way.
Ahhh I see… I need to face this fear… lol
I am going to tackle this… LOL
I’m terrified of body con dresses! I’m on the larger side of the plus size spectrum and I just think a body dress or skirt would look terrible on my body! =/ They looks so amazing on others’ bodies though
Mmmm I think you have the perfect opp to try one on love! And if you like to wear shapewear, maybe this will help? 🙂
Lately? Pants. For real. I get terrible muffin top because I don’t have much of a waist and it’s gotten worse because I’ve put on some weight recently. Aside from working out, I’ve worn pants like once in the last year. Real life. My boss has NEVER seen me wear pants. I need to get back on the horse, and a bunch of merlot-colored pants this season have been tempting.
Hrmmm… I am sure you can fin a pair that could work… Who do you wear on a regular? Which designers?
I’m scared of hats. I love them, I buy them and then I’m afraid they just look silly on me so I don’t wear them. 🙁
Ahhh I barely or hardly wear them cause of my big hair! LOL
After browsing through the post, I don’t think I have anything I’m afraid of. Some things I simply had to find the brand/style that works for my body. Skinny jeans were difficult until I found the right cut. Other things I had to adjust for me. A skater skirt doesn’t work on me, but a skater dress does. I’m watching the finale of #WNTW and I think one of the biggest things I learned from this show is to try things on.
Two snaps and thank you for sharing! Trying it on is the biggest thing! 🙂
It took me a long time to come to the realization that I needed to try things on instead of immediately saying I can wear something.
I have two things that I just can’t seem to buy or wear: Bodycon dresses & skater skirts. I love them both on other people & see so many beautiful curvy plus size women in them!! But I feel like I have such a different body (plus size & petite). I feel like I’d look ridiculous! I wish I could just say Eff it and wear either one but I dont know. I love reading your blog & I follow you on FB & Instagram just to get inspiration, ideas, and feel the positive energy from you!! so Thank you!!
I say we try to tackle this fear together!
So crazy to be reading this since I just got my ASOS skater skirt and wore it tonight! For me, though, I can’t handle my arms being out! Even cap sleeves make my heart start racing!
Really! I saw we face this together.. You can do it! I currently have a few skater skirts in my shopping cart, cause I will face this!
About 15 years ago or so, I was riding the bus. I was wearing one of my favorite denim mini skirts. A man was sitting across from me, and was leering at me. Apparently every time I crossed my legs or sat up to scoot over for another passenger he had a perfect view of my underwear. I was so horrified that I always made sure if I wore a skirt/dress that I always wore a spanx type short underneath (I.e., granny crawls). Only now at 40 am I getting over it.
!!!! OH NOOOOOO!
I have finally shelved my granny panties, and rock a shorter hemline. Mainly now only one fear remains…bathing suits. Blech!
I am terrified of bright colors. I like to be noticed, but not too noticed
Let’s tackle this together! You can do it and I will too!
I’m a curvy woman and I have issues with wearing prints… Do you have any suggestions to any prints that would work for me?
Start small and with basic colors, like a black and white and then start playing around form there! 🙂
thanks 🙂
im 24 years old i dont know how to dress cause of my shape i realy need an advice (i m curvy and i love that but my problem is with my chest ( its too big )
1.always wear a good bra (the best you can afford) in the correct size. (get a bra fitting). 2.I find button down the the most difficult for large boobs, everything else is far game. V necks as long as they don’t dip too low, look great and faux wraps are a nice look.
thank you so much
I would say that for the most part I am comfortable with my body but of course I have my days when I rather stay home then hit the street so that no one looks at me weirdly. My biggest fear is to wear bathing suits and I love the water but I just feel like people are laughing at me when take of my clothes and reveal my suit.
A basic swimsuit. I always wear board shorts with mine, even when I weighed 160 I was too self-concious about stretch marks to even venture into regular swim pants.
I am so afraid of crop tops!!! I purchased one for my 25th birthday…and I would love if you could help me style it!!!
Totally my arms….they have some scars and bubbles of chub that hovers above my elbow just waiting to over take my elbow lol.
How have you worked on this to face your fear love?
try to work out my arms, and not sure that I need to show them….when I can focus on what is working for me .
Bodycons or anything too fitted
I like fitted but not skinnnnnn tight!
Oooh..me too!! They keep going high thigh coz of my size 46 hips
Mini skirts!
ohhh what is mini to you???
A good ways above the knee
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UPPER ARMS AND LEGS……I HAVE MY REASONS 🙂
That’s the point
I’m not “afraid”… I just know what doesn’t look good on me and don’t wear it. Like shorts lol.
Highwaisted pants/skirts without a shirt hiding my belly.
I never wear sleeveless blouses or dresses…nothing that has no sleeves or tiny sleeves in public. It is quite a problem as I live on a island south Mexico, so hot and humid most of the year. I am so insecure about my arms, thy have rolls and they’re white as I never expose them. I wish I could have the courage to show them.
Anything see through lol. I would definitely say a bikini.
Anything and everything that shows my mid driff. I hate showing my tummy. I’m scared to wear two pieces that expose a little of my tummy
A top that’s too short!
Bare arms, crop tops, and white! I wore white Sat but the bare arm dilemma…
Anything that shows more leg than my foot.
Bare arms and really fitted clothing. I need tops that skim over my stomach area.
Clothes…lol seriously everything. So self conscious about my mid section.
Sleeveless and too fitted clothes
My arms to a certain extent and my thighs because they have so much cellulite.
Yes my thighs noooo
Stuff that gives me vbo. Vbo doesn’t look good to me. You can not convince me it’s beautiful and in my eyes there’s no way to own it in fiecre way so I cringe when I see myself and other beautiful plus ladies with it too.
Vbo?
Visible belly outline. Usually from not wearing a shapewear underneath. Or clothes being a bit too tight on
To me this woman is gorgeous and her outfit is cute. Her curves are on point. But me personally would like the silhouette more if it didn’t hug her lower/under tummy like it does. I know it’s not for everyone but I’d prefer a shapewear in a outfit like this.
Me too! I will change an entire outfit if I can see even a hint of my lower stomach. I know I have to get over it but….
I’m right there with you! We’re beautiful and strong we’ll get over our fashion phobias one day ððð
I totally get this.
Shorts…
Shorts or swim suit hate showing my thighs.
Sleeveless
Anything tight on my middle. Even after losing 35lbs it still is big there. I have no problem wearing leggings or skin tight pants though!!
Sleeveless without a sweater cause of my flabby arms
Sausage dresses (lol). Sometimes fears are a bit warranted. No matter what size you are, you cannot wear everything so dont even play yourself. My fears have keep me from looking like a fool many a day.
Shorts and short sleeves am doing some short sleeves lately but still feel uncomfortable.
Colour purple. Somehow I think I’ll look to dark! I’m already a super dark skin
Sleeveless unless it is over 100f is hard for me, so are shorts, so is anything tight around my tummy or back.
My biggest fear was showing arms. Thanks to the Curvy Fashionista I found my courage and now wear several sleeveless things and I feel fabulous!!!!!
I used to never wear shorts or skirts. I hate my legs. I also never wore sleeveless tops. Today, I’m in a mini skirt. The bf is quite happy. Lol! And you should see the tan lines from my tank tops. I’m over feeling self conscious. It takes too much of my time, energy, and happiness.
My tummy. I bought two beautiful dresses from Old Navy that I used as tunics with leggings. The first time I wore with Spanx, uncomfortable. The second time I did without.
Showing off my arms (elbows and up) and my tummy. Those are my hard limits.
Shorts.. Because of catcalling..
Tuttle neck
Jeans.. I have a underbelly I don’t like
Any shirts that donât go all the way down to cover my buy and skirts that show my calves. I have big legs.ð
I have a booty do….u know ….when your stomach looks bigger than your booty do….so I will never wear my shirt tucked into my pants? Peplum tops and shirts with tapered at the waist is my go to
Anything that fits. I always go for the baggy stuff. I’m afraid anything fitted properly, would make me feel more like a sausage in a wrapper than I already do.
I’ve conquered quite a bit of my list in the last few years, but a true bikini is still on the there.
Things that are tight on my belly. Iâm comfortable with most of my body, but I didnât have a belly until after I had kids so that the area Iâm most insecure about.
This was my summer for short shorts… Next up crop top everything which is a lot for someone with a long torso
Short blouses that don’t cover my rear, or wearing my shirts trucked in. Baby gotta too much back.
I am afraid to go braless with most tops. Not a member of the small titty committee
Shorts
Showing my arms
White Pants…white fitted skirts……ð
skirts
showing my arms and my belly 🙁
Sleeveless and shorts((
Skirts and shirts above the knee…i don’t like my legs showing
ANything with short sleeves… i prefer 3/4th sleeves all year round
Shorts…my legs are too thick and my butt is very big too jaja
My arms
Shorts. Haven’t worn them since middle school.
My arms. Everything else I’m happy with how I wear what I like.
Sleeveless shirts that’ll show my flabby arms and anything that’ll reveal my jelly rolls.
Pants (jeans and work pants). Since I have gained 40lbs pants don’t fit the same and most of the time don’t look right. I look bigger than what I am with pants. So I wear dresses instead most of the time.
Rompers. Not the ones with shorts, the really cute dressy ones. But I have a good reason. Plus size and curve fashion lines don’t cater to shorter plus sized women. So a romper meant for you will have a crotch that hangs around mid thigh for me. There’s no way to make that look good. It’s strictly separates for með§
Stomach area . Crop tops. Swim suits.
Yes stomach area!!!
Miniskirts/shorts. Anything that shows my thighs
I donât wear nothing with my arms out ð©ð¤·ð½ââï¸
Shirts that tuck into your jeans…. Cuz I have a freakin gut.
Miniskirts (anything above the knee) and showing midriff
Rompers! It accentuates my low, round belly. If one more person asks me if I’m preggers.
Bodycon stuff that clings to my tummy, or a bare midriff.
Sleeveless
Sleeveless tops and dresses
Wearing a bikini for the first time
Showing my arms. And yesss to all my sistas feeling the same way. Good to know I’m not alone on that. ð§
Pretty much everything scares me!!! Lately, it’s trying to find pretty but comfy front closure bras.
Bodycon dresses..I LOVE them, but I don’t have the courage to wear them.
Body curving clothes
Crop tops
Pants that don’t fit right on my “pouch” from my csection. Makes me feel like I have 2 bellies.
Bodycon dresses for sure! I don’t feel like I can get away with that.
Anything too bright and figure hugging essentially. Backless tops/dresses. Bathers of any description. Shorts. Blouses where my boobs refuse to be contained!
Skirts or shorts. Anything tight fitted. Dresses that are any shorter than calf length.
Clingy dresses or tops because of my “apron” from my c-sections. I have an hourglass figure but that messes it up.
Sorry, English isn’t my mother tongue. What’s an apron?
I had 2 c sections as well and a surgery. My belly looks horrible
The skin that hangs in your middle because of the muscles being stretched from pregnancy is called an “apron”. It looks bad and can cause rashes from perspiration under the skin. So I have to use powder to keep it dry. I wish I had the money for surgery to take it off.
Shorts and I also have an apron from C-sections, 3 of them! I honestly think I need a girdle.
Short shorts
I’m not sure I’ve commented on this one yet, so if I have, I’m sorry! Crop tops! I want to join the crowd, but can never find anyrhing flattering for my gut lol
Anything above my knee, not baggy around tummy, or that shows my arms
High heels
I have a massive belly (think seven months, but I’m not pregnant) so I struggle. Fitted dresses are out. I’ve always covered my legs but recently thinking my legs are reasonably ok compared to the rest of me why not show them?
Curvy bellies are also awesome! (:
Shorts!
Tight clothes. I’ve gotten better, I even sometimes tuck my shirt in!
Sleeveless anything, haven’t worn a bathing suit in decades, and crop tops…Ha!
For me it was off the shoulder dresses or tops. Conquered my fear at my son’s wedding.
Killin it.
Shorts and short skirts… Its just too hard for me
Shorts
Sleeveless anything! My arms are kind of a lumpy, plump eczema disaster, but you know what? It’s 900 degrees out, so we’re just gonna get over that.
Slay.
I don’t even have photographs of me in any outfits… I’ve just grown accustom to hearing how enormous I am and how the hubs and my mom are “concerned about my health.”
I feel ya, babes…just love yourself and sometimes you gotta get pissed off and tell them about their faults ððð I had to tell my mom “listen, just get over it..you have two skinny daughters and one fat one, stop nagging me”
Thank God my husband think I’m sexy as all get out. Turn off the negative voices, including your own ð
Mini skirts and bikinis (in fact any swimmers in public). I made it my MISSION last summer to wear swimmers in public because I was so sick of being weighted down by long board shorts and rash vests every time I went to the beach or tried to do laps. Every time it becomes easier.
Does anyone else get angry reading all the comments? I hate how we were all trained by the clothes police ):
Shorts
Dresses….it doesn’t matter the style, I just don’t think I have a body for dresses.
Bikini!
Strapless bra
Anything form fitting
Shorts.
Everything now a days…
Nothing sleeveless!
Sleeveless clothing
I wear what I want!
Arms. . Thighs.. heels.. they hurt
Shorts, legs full of cellulite. And have to wear tops that cover my muffin top.
Sleeveless next to strapless.
My legs. I cover them always. I will only wear shorter dresses/skirts in the cold weather, when I can wear black tights.
Pretty much anything that’s tight and shows my damn spare tire and fat tummy.
High heels,lol…I have Fred Flinstone feet and I can not,for the life of me, find any that don’t make me walk like a baby deer just getting off a horse… I would love to wear them but I just can not seem to master ” the walk!”…
I always thought wearing a dress makes me look like a barrel. But I found an affordable dress that matches my body type.
For me, it’s crop tops and anything that’s tight and shows VBO. I just can’t get over it.
showing my belly.. but i’m determined this summer to beat this fear. i’ve worn a crop around the house some, now i just need to be brave enough to venture outside!!
Fat arms and fat thighs
Any thing which is sleeveless I have to wear balaria or cordigon just to cover my hands
anything tight around the tummy area
I am with you. I don’t wear sleeveless anything without a jacket
Anything that reveals: legs, arms and mid-drift. I wish the only thing I was afraid of revealing was my heart (which is on my sleeve).