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An article on Yahoo! about NBA cheerleader, Kelsey Williams, who was ridiculed by a CBS Sports female blogger for having a “thick middle” got my blood boiling. First of all, this chick can’t be more than a size 4 MAYBE a 6. Since WHEN is that considered fat? Second, she looks fine to me. Third, what’s it to you ma’am? I mean really. Why does her weight need to be topic of discussion? Obviously the NBA team she cheers for has no problem with it and she clearly is confident and has no problem with her body, so why ma’am do you?
Why must women constantly weight shame each other?
The Internet has made it far too easy for people to be bullies. We call them Internet Gangsters. Stop hiding behind your computer! The media, society and men do a fine enough job of telling women what they need to look like and try to make us feel bad when we don’t fit into their boxes. We as women should be uplifting one another and working to change these beauty standards, not putting each other down for being larger than a size 2.
More and more these days people on their blogs and in mainstream media are weight shaming women. But, the thing that gets me, not that its ok at ANY size, but the women they are criticizing aren’t even big! Meghan McCain was chastised in 2009 for being too plus-sized to be a on MTV’s The Real World. Trainer to the stars Tracy Anderson spoke out against women who let their bodies go during pregnancy; and gorgeous supermodel Kate Upton was described has having “huge thighs, NO waist, big fat floppy boobs [and] terrible body definition” by a blogger. And we all know how mean people have been to Kim Kardashian and Jessica Simpson during their pregnancies. I mean they are pregnant for goodness sakes. Let the them have cake!
Which leads me to the Plus Size Community…
This ugliness is NOT lost on the plus size community. If a brand uses a size 12 or 14 model, the attacks. If a blogger wears something out of the “norm” of what a “plus size woman should be wearing,” the attacks (remember Marie in that peplum belt?) get personal, nasty, and ugly. I’m just appalled at how critical we as women have become of other women and their bodies.
BUT, more importantly, WHY or WHO thinks it is okay to police each other, trying to keep us in a place where we aren’t even allowed to just BE? In all of our plus size glory? If you want to wear bold yellow, strapless, or head to toe polka dots, do it boo. Work. It. All. The. Way. Out. But most importantly,
We must stop reflecting our own insecurities onto others
We must stop hiding behind the computer to say mean things; and we must learn to love ourselves and accept one another. If someone looks good in something you never thought to wear, more power to them, if someone wants to get down in a fit that is not your style, this is fine. If someone has the gall to rock out in an outfit that you had never thought of or had the confidence to wear, don’t knock them, embrace them. Now YOU CAN DISAGREE respectfully, but this post is not about THOSE comments and commentators, because a little dissension helps drive a conversation… but those mean spirited, nasty, and ugly comments?
Where do we draw the line? How do we work towards accepting the fact that every body is different, we come in all shapes and sizes and we all are beautiful in our own way.
Read the full article about weight shaming and the NBA cheerleader here