His Two Cents: Trusting in Yourself

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This month I would like to address a common issue in my experience with women and that is “Trust” or lack thereof. I’m not speaking in terms of a mate, but trust in yourself. Trusting the decisions you make are the right ones; your hairstyle, makeup choices, clothing, shoes.

I can’t tell you how many nights I’ve been asked, “How do I look?” And when I answer “beautiful” she would pause and say I’m going to change I don’t like this… I would always chuckle inside and think why did you ask me then? You don’t trust my opinion. I think that’s why trusting in yourself is paramount.

Pictured here: Callie from The Corners of the Curve in Volup2 Magazine

You look at yourself in the mirror and you don’t trust your own eyes on how good you look and then you second guess your mate when he or she cosigns on how good you look. Why is that? When it comes to self, why do women not trust their own instincts? God has blessed you with great intuition; it’s a shame you deny this gift.

Personally, I have trusted a woman to select my cologne, help me select my clothes and share input on if I should keep or cut my goatee. And yet this same woman could not decide what to wear with 4 hour’s notice.

I kind of equate trusting in yourself to confidence. There was a confidence she had in telling me how I looked in something, good, bad or indifferent but she did not have the same confidence in her own choices.

Ladies whatever you decide to wear own it! Be confident in it! Trust in yourself and the choices that you have made. Don’t spend time telling yourself what you don’t like about a dress or jeans or whatever; focus on what positive things it does for you. And if you don’t like the way it fits, get rid of it! Try to get things that accentuate your body in all of its glory- but this is a whole other topic of its own…

Women are complex creatures and I don’t begin to completely understand all your quirks, I just wish the same woman that runs a house, takes care of spouse, kids, bills, the one who cooks, cleans, works, loves and fights would be more trusting in herself and exhibit the same confidence when dressing to go out.

Trusting in yourself is paramount.

THOUGHTS?