Two things about me are true: Iโve always been curvy, and Iโve always had long hair. Those things are not mutually exclusive, but until about a month ago, my hair hadnโt been above my shoulders since I was 10 years old. I had always adored short hair, I grew up seeing my mom and her fellow cosmetologists rocking edgy pixie cuts, bobs, and fades. But one thing I knew was that curvy girls canโt rock short hair.
โShort hair makes your face rounder, slender faces look best with pixie cutsโ, the kind of comments that made me keep my hair at an almost unmanageable length for so long. My texture was also totally different than most people I grew up with, so imagining my thick curls surrounding my round face made me think of 1982 Annie. Not really a good look for me.
The Big Chop: Plus Size Women Can Rock Short Hair Too
Hair is so personal, particularly for women. Sometimes it feels like the only thing we have control over. Itโs also very political. Short hair, long hair, and various hairstyles are capable of causing controversy (remember when Britney shaved her head?) I felt obligated to keep my hair long, because it felt like the only thing deemed โacceptableโ in terms of being a plus-size woman.
All of my closest friends have done the big chop, and havenโt looked back since. To see them so light, carefree, and beautiful regardless of their hair was so empowering. So one day, I just decided โthis is too much, Iโm chopping it all off.โ My hair suddenly went from grazing the curve in my lower spine to a Halle Berry look. Now, donโt get me wrong. It wasnโt love at first sight. When I first looked in the mirror and it seemed like I was all cheeks, it worried me to see so much of my face at once, and to not have anything to manipulate it. I couldnโt hide anymore, and that was scary. At first.
Why do we feel like we have to hide in the first place?
Luscious locs or not, we have nothing to hide. Plus size womenโs bodies are policed in so many ways, from size and shape, to hair and makeup, the pressure is real. No more selective compliments, no more โshe has such a pretty faceโ. As one of my favs, India Arie, so greatly sang: I am not my hair, I am not this skin, I am the soul that lives within.
So hereโs a few of my favorite curvy women rocking the big chop.
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How do you feel about your hair? Would you ever think of doing the big chop?
Do you have the belief that curvy girls canโt wear short hair? Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
I was searching โshort hair for big womenโ and found your post. Iโve had the same approximate hair length for YEARS for just the same reasonsโฆbecause Iโm โsupposedโ to. Exhausting. Your post helps nudge me in that directionโฆIโm ready for change, we shall see!
Itโs funny to my this discussion of the big chop. I have been natural almost 40 years. What was called a shaved head is now a big chop. As we decolonize our minds, we are free to be beautiful ourselves. That includes all women.