Out with the old, in with the new! Gather around, girls and guys. As 2025 makes itself known, we have a round-up of icks plus size women want you to leave in 2024โฆ once and for all.
Aside from TikTok trends and overused slang, this year, the fluffy community has seen a lot of discourse that must be put to rest as we enter the next 365-day cycle. How often have we opened a social media app and scrolled past a post we didnโt like? Or, received a sly compliment that left us with a forced smile and the urge to return that backhanded(ness) in the rudest way possible? Unfortunately, there are too many times to count.
In a generation where the internet has found comfort in exploiting fat-curated spaces, itโs almost been embedded in societyโs DNA to exclude larger individuals from the general population of humanity. Conversations surrounding body positivity are (unfairly) met with unsolicited โconfidence boosters,โ such as the infamous โyouโre not fat; youโre beautifulโ line. Feelings are disregarded for a few laughs and likes because making โfunโ of bigger people is the quick come-up for cyber-world comedians. Think pieces regarding our community are discussed by those only willing to put on their activism gear when itโs โhot.โ Self-proclaimed admirers are hiding their fetishism with false advocacy. Weโve had enough.
While we could go on (and on) about fat politics, weโre ending the year with a (lighthearted yet honest) list of big girl โno-nosโ as we move into this increased era of visibility and inclusivity. Our voices are allowed to be higher than whatโs on the scale. And weโre no longer afraid to say whatโs simply annoying in this age of unapologeticness.
Top 9 Icks Plus Size Women Want You to Leave in 2024โฆ For Good
1. Fat Girl Seasons
Whereas periods like โfat girl summerโ and โfat girl fallโ have been the staple of the plush-pal takeover, weโre here to let you know those arenโt the only seasons weโre dominating. Weโre year-round! While they arenโt the most offensive, theyโre played out and feed into the ideology that we arenโt those girls every day of the week. Honey, weโre in your face and here to stay! Like it, love it, or leave it.
2. โBBW Loversโ
Itโs one thing to support, itโs another thing to sexualize. As if โBBWโ isnโt already debatable enough, men have run the term to the ground. Although we greatly appreciate our true admirers, we all know that one person who loves plus size women and makes their infatuation their whole online identity (username included). If you go to the nearest pro-big-girl TikTokerโs page, the comments are filled with those who take the said maleโs attraction to us as if itโs a badge of honor that weโre his chosen preference. As a result, it creates this sense of pedestalization. To our fellow fine fatties, no one deserves a cookie for desiring us.
3. Confidence Compliments
Weโve all heard the โI love your confidence!โ whenever someone sees us wearing a dress that hugs our rolls a little tighter than theyโre used to looking at. Although one may have good intent, they donโt realize how shady it could come offโฆ at times. Why do we have to be โconfidentโ to have the guts to show a tad bit of skin? Complimenting a voluptuous woman on her โcourageโ to sport something is rooted in the controversial belief that โdressing for your body typeโ strictly applies to queens of larger size. Furthermore, shouldnโt all women (generally) have a level of confidence, regardless of their weight?
4. The Rise of โBig Backโ
Donโt fight us because we know how you all like to tussle, butโฆ โbig backโ should have been removed from social mediaโs vocabulary by 11:59 P.M. on New Yearโs Eve. What started as a quick wave has become a global phenomenon. Not only does it put plus size bodies at the butt of the joke, but it also carries the theory that all heavier people are (automatically) in poor health and have excessive eating patterns. Food intake isnโt the only thing that contributes to obesity.
5. Weight Loss Recruiters
Speaking of obesity, promoting your flat tummy Takis or diet Doritos in our DMs is more problematic than the unhealthiness you claim we promote by authentically embracing our existence. With gym culture shoving itself down our newsfeeds, losing weight isnโt something we need to be reminded of and should be a personal decision. We each have different journeys. Let people follow theirs when the time is rightโฆ for them.
6. Essays on Why You Think โBigger Is Betterโ
Along with the โBBW loversโ often come Facebook and X posts about the โperksโ of dating a plus size woman. Contrary to these viral think pieces, every fluffy sista isnโt so desperate for love and attention that weโre willing to go to unreasonable lengths to keep our partners happy. No, you wonโt always have a homecooked meal on the stove after weโve run our million-dollar businesses all day (um, hello, manifestation!), nor will we go above and beyond in the bedroom without the pleasure reciprocated. Additionally, while we do have quite the cushion, weโre not a built-in teddy bear and cuddle buddy. Sometimes, we want to be held, too.
7. Brands โfor Fat Peopleโ That Donโt Go Past 2/3X
Alrightโฆ letโs wake it up. If youโre a retailer, flaunting that your company is inclusive is invalid if the only size you go up to is a 2X (maybe 3X on a good day). Through observation, many clothing companies donโt cater to curvier bodies outside of the pear-shaped ratio. However, itโs important to remember that throwing a couple of Xs on the tag doesnโt mean youโre a brand for every body. Material mattersโand so do our apple-shaped beauties.
8. Unrealistic Plus Size Clothing Models
Online purchasing is (literally) the go-to for (almost) everyone these days. As a full-figured woman, shopping is (already) a task. Itโs even more frustrating to browse a website and notice that none of the display models closely depict your body type, leaving the review section as your only source of hope. Some plus size people have physical restraints, while others loathe having to go inside a store and deal with an associate who doesnโt know how to assist them. Creating a fair shopping experience for all (online) would keep yโall from upsetting us and our homegirls in 2025.
9. Secret Admirers
Hiding your plus size queen or the fact that you dig us has never been okay and shouldnโt ever be. Men like this arenโt worth our time and entertainment. Fellas, we deserve to be shown off just as youโd trophy the lady with the size 8 figure. Also, hopping in our messages telling us how good-looking we are but cutting up on your social media timeline as if youโd โnever date a big girlโ only shows loser traits. Love us out loud or donโt love us at all.
Weโre excited to see what the New Year will bring. Hopefully, a break away from these icks! If not, we guess youโll see another of our petty round-ups at the end of 2025.
As we conclude, weโd like to know which of these resonated with you the most! Or, do you have any of your own to share? If so, drop them in the comments!
Until next time, Curvy Cuties.
