For some of you ladies spring cleaning your closet may not be enough your love life may need it as well. Out with the old and bad and in with the good and new. Men are not really that complicated. Men pretty much keep it simple. We on the other hand come with a handful of idiosyncrasies that the perfect man will love. Trust me he is out there.
First remember that a man doesn’t think like a woman. Thank God for that! One of you is enough. You definitely don’t want to date yourself. So remember men show their love and affection differently. But rest assured if he is the man for you he is going to love every imperfection on your body. Every annoying habit that you have. Every beautiful quality you possess and everything endearing that you have to say. Know and trust that if a man wants to be with you he will let you know. You will be his priority every day all day every second of every day. So if he is not making you a priority he is not that into you and why are you wasting your time girlfriend? You have to get ready for that perfect love that is coming your way so ditch the old and get ready for the new.
The first thing you need to know is that you have to stop waiting around for prince charming to save you. Girl, you are a capable woman so save yourself. He is only going to want you more because he knows that he has a strong EQUAL by his side. Not a helpless and hopeless woman that can’t take care of herself. He wants to know that if an emergency arises you have yourself together just as much as he does. You must work together not against each other.
Always remember that relationships are just as much about taking care of yourself as they are about taking care of the other person. Never let yourself go. Not for him, but for yourself. Take pride in who you are and keep yourself fabulous. Never give up your hobbies and friendships. Love can be all consuming. It is a beautiful thing. Let it seep into every part of your life. It makes you a happier person. But don’t let it take over your life. Love is about coming together because you are stronger that way. It doesn’t mean giving up those parts that make you the perfect pair. That unites your ying to his yang and vice versa. It simply means that there is balance.
Always remember that you can’t control others actions. You can only control your own. So stop over analyzing. Stop being afraid of infidelity. If he has given you every reason and shown you in every way that you are his one and only be secure in that. It is okay to know that you deserve happiness. Also remember that you are not a mind reader so neither is he. Communication is key! Talk it out it’s way easier than the “I am fine” or “Nothing is wrong” comments that we as women make and then expect him to guess what is really wrong. You are a big girl! So let him know what you are thinking and be open to more than just your side of the story. He has one too. It may just surprise you.
So as you spring into your new love remember compromise is a wonderful thing as long as you are not giving up who you are. Your perfect mate should inspire you to be a better version of yourself and vice versa. But most of all as a plus size woman looking for love confidence is everything! Why? Because, your confidence screams that you are a secure woman. You love every part of yourself therefore you are worth loving, you are worthy.
What is the best relationship you ever had and why?
Bonnielee Cuevas is former NYC Fashion Stylist, and Journalist with a very successful portfolio. She left the fashion industry and is a Lifestyle, Holistic & Sustainable Expert, Humanitarian, and Mental Health Advocate. She has been a successful Entrepreneur for over 13 years. BonnieleeCuevas.Com is where you will find sprinkles of her personal adventures, encouragement through a sustainable, holistic, and positive approach to fill your body, mind, and spirit with pure JOY. She has been seen and featured in (not limited to): CBS Radio Minnesota, Curvy Magazine, Adweek, Business Insider, Fashion School Dail, Oxygen Magazine and named one of Vogue’s Top Influential Social Media Darlings. You may have read many of her articles on sites like: The Curvy Fashionista, Dame Life Blog, Skorch Magazine and Zumba Life Magazine. Her passion and knowledge for style has never left her spirit, and she continues to freelance on the subject.
The best relationship I’ve ever had is the one I have now…with my fiance Dan. He has always treated me not like a Queen, but as a woman and an equal to him. He finds me sexy when I don’t see it, he lets me be be me always…and yes he LOVES me as a big girl–or whoever/whatever I choose to be.
THIS IS beautiful!!! Thank you for sharing! I cannot wait to find this kind of love!!!!
Like Alisa, the best relationship I’ve ever had is the one I have with my husband 🙂 I tell you – he’s the best man I know. I know that I know that I know he loves me – every inch of me. His love challenged me to love myself – and I thought I loved myself too, but I wasnt even close lol. He respects me; he respects my mind, my intellect, my financial abilities, my career, my business sense, my opinion, my ambitions – everything. He enjoys me – his idea of a great day is the one he spends with me. Even when we fight, I’m super secure and our fights are clean and respectful – we fight on the issue, not each other. He makes love to me like I’m made out of the yummiest chocolate and ice-cream lol! I’m super grateful to God for him and never take him for granted 🙂 Thanks for letting me share!