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NEW TO THE BLOG: His Two Cents- Loving You, Through the Eyes of a Man

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Last updated: 05/21/2014
By Guest Blogger 5 Min Read
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His Two Cents- Loving You

NOTE FROM MARIE: I was having a conversation with a guy friend of mine who has quite a way with words and in our conversation, he was sharing with me what he thought of plus size women and immediately I knew that I had to have him share with you, what some men are thinking about US.

SO,  I realized that you all loved what our prior conversation with these two men and what they had to say about us, I thought to play around with this a little bit.

Once a month, I will invite men in to share what they think, how they see us, fashion thoughts, and everything in between.

So, to kick things off, please welcome DJ, our FIRST contributor as he shares a few thoughts…

First let me start by saying, beauty doesn’t have a size, shape, or color. I’ve learned in my life that the most beautiful things are not quantified by any one thing.

Women fit this mantra to a tee.

Short, tall, thin, curvy beautiful has no bounds.

I’ve had several conversations with plus sized women, listening to them belittle themselves and it breaks my heart.

plus size model gigi marie shot by andersonsource

Whether or not you’re the size you want to be, your beauty should not be dimmed by what you weigh or by what perfect imperfections you have.

We all have insecurities, we all have things in ourselves we would like to change, but believing that we are beautiful has to be priority number one.

If you not happy with your size try to change it. If your skin is flawed learn how to properly clean your skin and/or how to apply make-up. If your clothes don’t fit you right, expand where you shop and search for different styles, like what Marie has done for you.

As a black man that LOVES, I repeat LOVES women in all shapes and sizes, let me leave you with this…

If you and I are walking down the street and someone insults you, you would expect me to defend you, right? But what about when you insult yourself? How can you expect me to be ok with silence?

Loving you becomes almost impossible if you can’t love yourself.

Jezra Matthews Canvas Photography New York

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Try it, I’d be willing to bet if you do, your life of love and your inner happiness will grow by leaps and bounds!

Let me leave you with a little something I wrote….

There was a lady I once knew with beauty,

That the Gods could only create

But her power was never realized

Cause herself she filled with hate.

She complained of her hair

Disenchanted with her size,

She hated how she photographed

Even the color of her eyes.

Her heart was always heavy,

Alone she thought she’d always be in

Never appreciating her gifts inside

Not living carpe diem.

Loving herself, something she could not grasp

Short changing herself,

That misery would always last.

But God had other plans

He showed her a power she didn’t know she had

Seeing her light glow from within

The smile lost now found.

Happy with herself, she now shines beyond.

The negative thoughts are gone

Her struggles she pushes aside

Realizing that love first must come from inside.

 

Let’s continue the conversation on Twitter and on Facebook and on Instagram. Have something to say? Use the Hashtag: #TCFxH2C

 

Are you a man who would love to share your Two Cents and want to chime in?
Have a plus size wife or girlfriend or someone you adore and want to share?
Shoot us an email here, with H2C in the Subject!

 

Ladies, what do we think about what DJ had to say? Echo his sentiments? Want to hear more? Sound off!

TAGGED: His Two Cents, relationships, self confidence, self love
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  • Serenity says:
    May 21, 2014 at 6:20 am

    BRAVO!!!!!

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    • Marie Denee says:
      May 21, 2014 at 8:00 am

      Right!!! I am sooo happy and geeked to share 🙂

      Reply
  • Joan says:
    May 21, 2014 at 6:35 am

    A positive perspective is beautiful to share, whether it is male or female. Nicely written! I look forward to more 🙂

    Reply
    • Marie Denee says:
      May 21, 2014 at 8:00 am

      Thanks and I will make sure there is! 🙂

      Reply
  • April ThebeautifulOne McCain says:
    May 21, 2014 at 11:26 am

    This was an awesome and well written piece! I saw so much myself in his poem!

    Reply
    • Marie Denee says:
      May 21, 2014 at 12:21 pm

      Yeahhh! This makes me smile!!!

      Reply
  • Dossi says:
    May 21, 2014 at 11:33 am

    I have always loved myself and had confidence in who I am as a plus size woman. In my 30s I own it!! I think regardless of your size when you are taking steps to be your best you, everything else seem to fall into place.

    Reply
    • Marie Denee says:
      May 21, 2014 at 12:21 pm

      I could not agree more!!! Thank you!

      Reply
  • Ingrid Williams says:
    May 21, 2014 at 1:26 pm

    I loved this. I have remained single for the last ten years because I lack the confidence to go out and meet people. I have been plus sized all of my adult years but when I was younger I had the confidence of 20 women and now in my forties age has made me lose some of that confidence. Im slowly getting back to loving me fully. Im missing the good years on dating and love.

    Reply
  • Whitney 'Nic' James says:
    May 22, 2014 at 7:15 am

    WOW…I love all of this! What a great addition to TCF. Bravo!

    Reply

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