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Zenni Optical Recognizing Women Leaders: The Most Important Lesson My Mother Taught Me + a Giveaway

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There are women all around us who inspire, motivate, and give us the drive to push forward. For me, this is my truth. As a blogger, as a businesswoman, hell, just as a woman, a lot of what I have done, accomplished, and created is drawn and motivated by the strength of the women who have come and gone in my life. So when Zenni Optical reached out to me, to acknowledge and recognize the women leaders who have the courage and strength to get the job done, I immediately knew that I had to be a part of this.

And who better to call out and recognize than my mother? Even better, my mother hits a milestone birthday next week, so in some ways, this is part of my gift to her!

My Mother's Letter- From the Daughter of a single mom
You see, I am a child of a bad ass single mother, who was in the Navy for 23 years. I never understood my passion for wanting to be surrounded by strong women, to pour into others, and to lift up my fellow sisters, up until two or three years ago!  I have always surrounded myself, both intentionally and subconsciously, with women who are clear and intentional on their goals, aspirations, and what they want out of life. And this started with my mother…

There are a few things that my mother taught me that, now as I am firmly in my mid-thirties, have only come to light, make more sense, and that keep me grounded and today I wanted to share a few of these lessons with you!

The Most Important Lesson My Mother Taught Me My Mother's Letter- From the Daughter of a single mom

Take yourself off the clearance rack.

It took me awhile to understand this, because for me, I was always a people pleaser. I care about what others feel and think, I care about keeping the peace, I care a lot about a lot of things and so it didn’t click for me. However, over these past two years, as I have been kind of going through a personal transition and grow into this woman my mother raised me to be, I now understand this to mean, Valuing Myself.

That meant relationships, that meant partnerships, and that meant doing what was best for me. To take myself off the clearance rack, I had to stop putting other people’s needs before mine, at the detriment of myself. I had to learn how to process that it was still okay to care, still okay to love, it was still okay to be considerate; but I had to learn how to do it and create boundaries for myself.

If that meant me working with Brand X, I had to be okay with walking away from the situation if it didn’t benefit me. If that meant engaging in a romantic relationship and not liking how I was being treated, to be vocal about it! If that meant wanting more out of life, I had to give myself permission to go for it. And honey, I am!

My Mother's Letter- From the Daughter of a single momThere are so many other ways that this mindset translates into my life, but when it comes to “not being on the clearance rack” I equate this to learning how to love, value, and respect myself and it’s through this, that I am more confident and self-assured in what I am doing, where I want to go, and how I want to get there… unapologetically.

I find it funny how I am in this space, reflecting upon the lessons that my mom has shown me. It’s no wonder why I find myself drawn to women, who are quite self-assured, self-confident, self-motivated and self-sufficient… Their energy is infectious and refreshing and inspiring!

And you know what? This lesson is only amplified by my grandmother, my sister, my aunties, my cousins and my friends; all of whom I draw strength from! This is sooo real for me and part of the reason why I had to participate in this post with Zenni Optical recognizing inspirational women leaders… it also doesn’t hurt that I am a proud member of #teamfoureyes!

But Zenni Optical wants to recognize those women who motivate and inspire you! Zenni Optical recognizes these women and wants them to see their strength through the lenses of the stylish and affordable executive collection. For me, I am recognizing my mom!

I want to hear from you! I want to know which woman has inspired you, has motivated you, has given you your strength and we’re doing this with a fun giveaway for both YOU and that woman in your life!

One winner will receive a pair of glasses from Zenni Optical for themselves and for the woman who has given you that strength! Leave a comment and tell me your story about the woman who has impacted, motivated, and inspired you!

To enter into the giveaway, just follow the steps in the form! Drop a comment, share your favorite frames from, and follow our social channels!

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You have until June 7th at 11:59 pm PST to enter!

Good luck and I cannot wait to hear which lessons you have learned and the women who have given them to you

*disclosure* this is a sponsored post with Zenni Optical and my life lessons and thoughts shared are my own

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Written by Marie Denee

I am the Editor in Chic of The Curvy Fashionista. Often goofy. Forever emo. Always a Virgo. You can find me somewhere grooving to 90s R&B.

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  1. My mom is my best friend. She left my physical life when I was a young, impressionable 15 year old. She always, always, always told me that with happiness and family on my side I would always have a good life. Believe me, my family has been through some stuff that has ripped most families apart, and through it all we remained tight, and loved. I know it’s all my mom’s doing. The happiness she instilled in us has been tested and proven time and time again. I miss her like she just left yesterday, and I’m forever grateful that she taught me that happiness should be important.

  2. Zennie Optical always has the goods! Im due for a few new pairs for the summer and I’m trying to get my mom into it, too. This company is one of the best things that has happened to the eyewear industry – seriously!

  3. Such a great article! My mother has taught me many life lessons and been an inspiration. The one important lesson is teaching me to accept/love myself flaws and all. She always taught me and my brother that everyone deserves respect and should be accepted no matter what.

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