We hope that all of you brides-to-be enjoyed learning about Shafonne of Pretty Bear Bride last week! She really is the most amazing resource for plus size brides! Today, we are bringing you a British blogger whose style is equal parts sweet and edge. Nancy of Sugar, Darling? has a fun, unique style and hopefully, will inspire you to explore and develop more of your own personal style too! With her body positive attitude, Nancy will leave you inspired to give that crop top, sheer skirt, or fatkini a try. She is a plus size blogger YOU NEED TO KNOW!!!!
Meet Nancy of Sugar, Darling?!!!
Location: Leicester / Nottingham, UK
How long have you been blogging?
Coming up to 8 years now! I started my first blog in 2010 where I shared my recipes but got bored with that after a while as I didn’t get that much engagement from my readers and it kind of petered out. After a short break, I started publishing on Sugar, Darling? although at first it was just a place for me to diary my vintage and antique fair finds along with inspirational things I’d found online. Then I discovered the world of plus size bloggers!
It took a good while before I got up the nerve to post my first outfit in 2013, but since then I’ve never looked back and my blog has become a really big part of my life and afforded me so many great opportunities.
What or who inspired you to become a fashion blogger? What led you to it?
It was finding the PS blogger and body positivity communities that gave me the original inspiration, but the final push was from my husband, family and friends. I’ve loved fashion my whole life and never really been afraid to wear and look however I wanted (hello teen punk and goth phases which still influence my style now) but I didn’t think anyone would be interested in how I dress because it’s never really been on-trend – I just wear what I want and like to mix things up.
Finding Bethany Rutter and Danielle Vanier and seeing how they have their own awesome styles showed me that maybe people would be interested in my outfits even though they weren’t high fashion. So, eventually I just went for it.
Do you blog full-time, for fun, as a hobby? Share your evolution!
My blog is a fun hobby really, although I dream of it one day leading me to a career in fashion. I have a full time job doing lead generation and social media for a landscaping company, but if some day I could transition into a marketing or PR role or start designing for a brand, that would be a dream come true – I’ve wanted to be a fashion designer since I was about five years old!
What is your favorite asset? Your legs, arms, waist? How do you play that up?
I like my calves as they’re nice and shapely so I wear a lot of knee length skirts and I love my tattoos, especially the ones over my shoulders and back, so I often wear pieces that show them off like Bardot necklines and slash necks.
What are the challenges, if any, you face regarding being plus size?
In all honesty, in adulthood, I’ve been pretty lucky to have not experienced too much negativity brought on by my size, but my childhood and teen years were just a long stream of bullying and misery. My stubborn nature didn’t help with that though – I went through goth, punk and rockabilly phases and refused to tone down what I wore which obviously made me stand out even more, but I still think that’s the right thing to do – dress for yourself not for someone else.
My only regret is that I let bullying at school stop me from going on to university and pursuing my dream of being a designer, but running my blog means I still have a place in the fashion community and that’s why I love it so much!
What’s your favorite thing about being plus size?
Obviously there are difference between me and a thin person, but I just try to live my life like anyone else, so I don’t think there’s really anything that I like above anything else about being plus size. I know it’s kinda mean, but I do enjoy when a thin person asks me where I got something I’m wearing and I can tell them they don’t do their size – it’s a role reversal I never expected to have, and hey, they have a lot more options than me!
What’s your favorite thing about being a blogger?
It’s given me the opportunity to get involved in the fashion industry that I never thought I would have as a fat person. If you had told me when I was a teenager that I would end up working with and modeling for clothing brands I’d have laughed at you! I also really value this involvement because my full time job isn’t exactly what I had dreamed of doing when I was little, so having blogging and meeting so many amazing people who I have become friends with is just lovely.
Who/what are your favorite designers/brands?
I’ve always been a huge navabi fan, and if I’m looking for something special and more luxe, I always head there first. I also adore ELVI and ASOS Curve, and they are definitely the people I buy from most. Other newer favorites are definitely In The Style Curve and River Island Plus. I’m praying that one day Zara will extend to plus sizes too!Describe your personal style.
I’m definitely a bit of a chameleon – sometimes I love an all black super chic look, and other times I’m all about the bold clashing colors and wild prints. My style is becoming more refined as I get older, but I’m not afraid to wear super fun and frivolous styles whenever I can. The real basis of my personal style has always been mixing the classic with the contemporary which was definitely influenced by the costumes designed by Michael Kaplan and Charles Knode for my favorite ever movie Blade Runner.
Which bloggers inspire you? Plus or straight size! Any bloggers currently on your radar? Danielle Vanier, Nicolette Mason and Bethany Rutter will always and forever be at the top of my list, but right now I also adore Steph from Nerd About Town, Chloe in Curve, Margot Meanie, Megs from Wonderful You and Isabell Decker.
What do you think about where plus size fashion is today versus a few years back?
All I know is that I have a lot more options for places to shop than I did when I first started blogging and far more on-trend options. It’s come along in many ways, but is also still held back by some brands not being willing to commit and use larger sized models, extend their size ranges higher, put effort into the actual fit of their pieces or defend their customers from negative comments.
What do you think or hear from readers, is one of the biggest myths about plus size fashion?
The whole “you have to always wear things that flatter (aka hide) your ‘problem areas’ and there are certain styles/fabrics/colors/prints that fat people should never wear” is definitely my biggest bug bear, and it still makes me sad to think that people believe that. I also hate the notion that by being unapologetic about my body size and not being willing to hide myself away in plain baggy clothing, it means that I’m ‘glorifying obesity’ – I’m just trying to live my life like any other person, and I don’t see why being fatter than someone else should mean I have any less worth or right to be happy than anyone else.
Are you working on anything or have anything to share?
I’m really excited to have started working with professional photographers this year, and I’ve invested a lot in the aesthetics of my website and in lighting for my YouTube channel this year. I’m putting more than ever into blogging and enjoying every minute of it!
Anything else you want The Curvy Fashionista’s readers to know?
If you’re only just starting out on the road to fat positivity and loving your body if it doesn’t fit the media’s ideal, it can seem like an insurmountable task and you can feel like you’ll never escape diet culture and hating yourself. I promise you that you will get there, just that first step of going out with no sleeves or no tights or wearing a cropped top can seem huge, but honestly when you’ve done it once and found out that the world doesn’t crumble if you’re showing a little skin, it is so much easier from then on.
My biggest tip is to take your life in your own hands and make it work for you – stop reading magazines and following social media accounts that fat shame and start reading body positive publications and following fat activists and fatshion bloggers. End any toxic relationships with people who make you feel bad about yourself and don’t be afraid to talk to people if you’re struggling, especially body positive people online – we’re always more than happy to help and encourage. Know that your appearance does not affect your worth or how you should be treated!
Lastly, what does Curvy.Confident.Chic mean to you?
It means wearing whatever you want that makes you feel amazing. Dressing for yourself and no one else in the styles that make you feel great.
Check out Nancy’s blog at www.sugar-darling.com!!!!
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