I am Always More than JUST a Blogger

A few days ago, I was listening to a fellow blogger buddy of mine share a story about how she was expressing her love for a particular furniture design. She is a fan girl of this brand and happened to share her adoration of this on her FB page. In conversations about this brand, someone retorted to her, “well, you’re JUST a blogger, so what do you know about fashion or design.”
Little did they know, this “Blogger” that they were so quick to dismiss is a PR professional, runs a network of bloggers, and fashions quite a few events- all in ADDITION TO being a blogger.

Which had me thinking…

I have heard this dismissal before, had it directed to me before and I have witnessed the tug of war of industry experts trying to understand the influence of such a “blogger.”

This irks the crap out of me to no avail…

You see, I take offense to this for a multitude of reasons…

I am always more than Just a Blogger

I am a blogger, but I am way more than this. I am a blogger who leverages her blog to share the years of experience, education, and passion to affect change as her platform. Yes, I am a daughter, sister, auntie, and friend; I am more than a JUST.

I am a business woman. An LLC. I sit on an MBA in Marketing. Dedicated to the plus size consumer. If you email me, you will see the MBA in my signature. I am currently debating a Doctorate in Business as we speak. I worked in various roles of retail for over 11 years BEFORE I started blogging. I have held various roles in sales, management, and merchandising.

Also, I teach. In college. In the fashion marketing department. Second semester this fall too! I am sooo hyped about this.

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When I talk to brands, consult, or engage them I bring my years in retail, my knowledge of the industry, my passion to affect change to my partnerships. I take this seriously and personally. However I can use whatever I have to show a brand or motivate others, this is what I blog for.

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I never thought I would be able to make my passion my hustle- I had no clue. I did however notice with my background that there was something here and I went with the flow. A way to make folks listen and pay attention. Especially over the past five years in my blogging life, we have seen a change and shift in the plus size community- thanks to the advent of social media.

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And this is just me. There are far many other bloggers who leverage their past experiences, educations, and passions to affect change, run businesses, help others, motivate others, and inspire others. To dismiss a blogger, who adjusted to the changing times and found an outlet or platform is absurd. NOT when there is sooo much more to them, NOT when there is so much more to YOU.

I am, we are, never JUST a blogger.

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  • aj

    Thank you for all you do! I enjoyed reading your post. I love hair, fashion and make up and never realized I could take my passion and really make something with it. I was plus size for over half my life, now I’m regular sized but with curves. I still follow plus fashions. I really admire what you plus bloggers are doing! Thank you for the motivation….cause I need it! God bless

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      God bless and thank you madame!!!!!

  • Em. x.

    I LOVE this post, Marie. YES YES YES. LOVE it.

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Thank you @em_x:disqusMiss you! Love you! XOXOXO

  • http://www.mrstdj.com/ MrsTDJ

    This post is EVERYTHING!!!! Yes, yes, yes!!!

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Hahahah heeeeeyyyyyy :)

  • http://www.EatStylePlay.com/ Eat.Style.Play

    !! Love this! I wish people honestly didn’t bring their bitterness to peoples pages like that. You have no idea what people do for a day job in most cases. Most bloggers aren’t full time even if they have a huge fan base, so I don’t get the assumption. Anyway! I love to see someone with all that under her belt and making a path for herself.

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Thank you for the love darling… it is sooo appreciated! :)

  • http://rockcurvatude.blogspot.com Curvatude

    Say THAT! And as far as people thinking we are just bloggers, I am cool with that. Folks who make assumptions about people only show that they are an ass.

    No one defines me, I define myself.

    And I never talk about my other business or the fact that I worked in investments for 14 years before paroling myself but I always introduce myself as a blogger, something that I OWN wholeheartedly. Something that allows me to celebrate & share all of the things that I love.

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      XOXOXO you know I know you too well… and I respect you for this too! YES ma’am there are sooo many more layers to us, and it boggles me the ignorance at times… :(

      But you are right- “no one defines me, I define myself”- I love this.

  • Deidre Harris McMillan

    Luv this post, Honest, Inspiring, and Heart Felt!

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Thank you madame!!!

  • Curvy CEO

    YES! To all of this! And, you know, sometimes I do get a little down on myself because, unlike you (and another blogger I admire a lot, Alison Gary of Wardrobe Oxygen), I don’t have a background in retail. (Unless you count the six months I worked at Hecht’s Department store…the most physically and emotionally demanding job I ever had.) BUT, I remind myself that at the end of the day, I’m not “just” or even a “blogger” – I am a writer. I always have been and always knew I would be…it’s just that instead of writing novels, I’m writing blog posts. Thanks for writing this – and woo hoo on the college teaching. That is SO awesome!

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      XOXOXOXOXO honey! Thank you!!! Thank you for your kind words and for sharing YOUR reminder!

  • http://Missfoodiefab.com/ Miss Foodie Fab

    Great post. I love to hear more about bloggers backgrounds. Thanks for sharing your story.

  • http://oneorganizedbusiness.com/ Alaia Williams

    Great post!

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      thank youuuuuuuuuuu

  • http://www.empoweredmochapatient.com/ Meredith Hurston

    Awesome! We are not just bloggers!

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      say it one mo ‘gin!!! lol

  • http://glintoflifeblog.blogspot.com/ K.Nicole Williams

    Great post. I don’t know why people are so dismissive of bloggers, even if they had nothing on their resume, but ENTHUSIASM for their subject, they’d already be ahead of the game. Someone with the passion and commitment to blog about their heart’s desires is sometimes qualification enough.

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Thank you!!! :) I love what you have said there: “even if they had nothing on their resume, but ENTHUSIASM for their subject, they’d already be ahead of the game.” sooo true…

  • Betzy Carmona

    Great post ! I’m going to share this

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Thank you!!! please do! ;)

  • Rachelle Monique

    Well I guess you told them! Great post

  • Alisha N. ‘Byrd’

    I’ve been told this before a couple of times! Its sad that in 2013 people sill don’t recognize blogging as an actual career.

    Alisha @ The Alisha Nicole

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      XOXOXOXO I mean… for reals… SMH if they don’t get it, that’s fine, own that, but don’t scoff cause you cannot see how this life is… LOL Thank you!

  • Dailycurlz.com

    waooo, great post!!

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Thank you Daily!

  • CreativelyYours

    Yes! I love this post. I even at times have to remind my family of this when they think I’m insane for “this blogger thing” as some of them think of it. I have a Masters in Ed, taught school etc so I’m more than just a blogger. Never underestimate people…even those you think aren’t major players, you just never know.

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Never underestimate folk… :) You are sooo right!

  • http://www.poisedinprint.com/ Poised In Print

    Outstanding post. When people are ill-informed they tend to make flawed statements. Most bloggers have such an arsenal of experiences that are great influences for their niche.

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      :D Thank you soooooo much for the love and yes!!!

  • http://bechicmag.com Mercedes S.

    Loved this! Well said. And thanks for speaking up for ALL of us!



    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      OMG… hellloooooo @Mercedes_BeChic:disqusHow are youuu? Thank you for the love and thank you for the support! :)

      • http://bechicmag.com Mercedes S.

        Hey girl! Good thank you. When are you coming back to the NYC? Let me know. Last time I met/saw you was like 3 years ago.

        • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

          I will be in NY for NYFW! Still finalizing dates, but I will be there!

  • http://hippopotamuslee.blogspot.com Jaimielee

    Sometimes I feel silly referring to myself as a blogger because it can feel so self-important, but it’s crucial to give yourself credit for the work you do, regardless of what you may be blogging about. Thanks for this post!

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      For a minute, I used to feel the same as you Now, I get a kick out of people’s reactions to it.. they havent the clue, and most always follow up with…. How do you make money from that! LOL

      • Query

        Well call me naïve, but I’ve never understood how blogs are monetized. If I knew that I’d probably write one! :)

  • KiwiTheBeauty

    You better say that! Just a blogger! A blogger with impact who has a life outside of blogging and educated! Boom Boom Pow Them All!

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      XOXOXOXO thank you sooooo much :)

  • B3Diverse

    I’m brand new to blogging for myself but I’ve have made my living off of building blogs and writing them others. People who don’t blog really have no clue about the amount of time and energy required to set a blog up, let alone the amount of dedication needed to build & maintain it.

    Not to mention if we were “Just Bloggers” we would have nothing to blog about! People blog about their lives, their passions, there joys, there pains. And a whole heap of us have degrees to back that all up!

    Thanks for writing post Marie, it was long overdue!!!!


    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      I am saying! :) Thank you for the love and for reading!!!

  • Whitney ‘Nic’ James

    Straight and to the point; I love this! Thank you for sharing!


    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      My pleasure madame, thank you for reading!

  • http://www.thehodgpepodgefiles.com/ Vee_thehodgepodgefiles

    Wow..thank you! I’ve “felt” people turn up their noses as if to say, “a blogger, that’s not anything important”. Whether you do it recreationally or as a business, it is “something” and it takes time and effort. Great post!

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Thank you! I often wonder if peeps understand what goes into this… Once my mother got it… a weight off my shoulders!

  • Ana Lydia Ochoa

    I am honored that my story inspired such a great post. Thank you for speaking-up and proving that “just a blogger” may not apply to everyone behind a keyboard. XOXO Ana Lydia

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      My pleasure and thank you for sharing your experience with us…

  • Dangerous Cupcake

    Such a great post!! Thank you for standing up for all of us “just” bloggers out there — and here’s to hoping the word “just” gets left behind in the dust.

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Hhaahahah well, there we go!

  • http://www.virtuallynadine.com/ Nadine Herring

    Love this post! Do people still not realize the power that bloggers have??? I plan to start a personal blog soon and I am always amazed at the power and influence bloggers have to touch people’s lives and make a difference.

    I read your posts on FB and now have starting reading your blog and I am so proud of all the work you and all the other talented bloggers are doing every day!

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Thank you sooo much Nadine! Welcome to my blog! :)

  • Mary Beth Elderton

    Whoever said that must have some confidence issues of her own! As a reader, “my” Bloggers–see how real you feel!–have the largest single influence on what I buy. It is largely how I learn about products, styles, trends. Keep up the great work :)

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Awww thank you sooo much Mary for the kind words! I TRY!

  • Query

    Ya know, I often think folks discount the internet. Because it is so accessible, and because anyone can say crap on it, the assumption is that it isn’t worthwhile. There is no ability to discern what is of importance and quality, and to separate it from the drivel. Those truly in the know understand the power and influence of a good blogger. He/she rivals the influence of the old time print journalist. I don’t know how one teaches what is valuable to a wider audience. You can’t exactly give them a failing grade for using Wiki as a source. :D ~ Prof. Margaret, MSW. (hehehe)

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Heheheh thank you sooo much madame! :)

  • http://BizMommy.com/ Tisha Berg

    Just. Beautifully. Said. Thank you!

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Thank you sooo much :)

  • Stephanie Penn

    I say this with love, especially love for you. Marie you are rare. You, my friend are a business woman who just happens to blog so when you report on a subject or a designer, you do so from a business perspective vs. a personal rant. However, you and I have witnessed bloggers tear major brands to shreds because they prefer to design fashion staples instead of colorful bodycon dresses that will only be in style for a quick minute. When people say things like “But you’re just a blogger”, I think it’s safe to assume that their view of what a blogger is has been based on people who view it as a platform to shine vs. those who use it as an informative means. Is it fair? Heck no, but please don’t take their words personally because I don’t see you as the type of “blogger” they are referring to.

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Thank you sis!!! I appreciate your words… I do believe there are many others like me, at least from my personal experience, and yes there are others as well that you speak of too… just like in any business yes? :)

      Because seeing a fellow friend of mine go through this, I was so inclined… because like me, she had sooo much going on behind her blog :)

      *sigh* you are right though… their view is different… and they may only see the limelight or platform for what you refer too… I am just saying before one assumes, there is always more…

      • Stephanie Penn

        You are so right. I think your ability to look at situations like this from each and every angle is another reason why you continue to shine.

  • Dawn Skinner

    Wow, you are a great breath of fresh air! Very well said.

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      THANK YOU!

  • garnerstyle

    Love this Bravo! I heard a comment like this this summer and it burned me up. Just because we don’t shout from the mountain tops every 5 mins what we are doing, who we are consulting with, or what project we are spearheading doesn’t mean that it’s not happening. I’ve always considered myself a quiet riot. I do a lot behind the scenes. I have an MPA and even if I didn’t I still have years of experience working in plus size. I hate to hear when people (in the industry especially) discredit what we do. I’ve said this a million times, bloggers brought plus size the forefront.

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      TWO SNAPS. :)

  • foodfashionandflow

    I can’t believe someone would make such an ignorant comment, especially not knowing your friends background. That person sounds so ignorant. There are a lot of bloggers that have exciting things going on behind the scenes that they don’t broadcast. Love how eloquently you get your point across.


    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Thank you soooooo kindly! :)

  • http://thisismeagankerr.com/ Meagan Kerr

    Some people are so quick to put others down! Blogging is really only just beginning to take off in New Zealand, so it’s not yet taken as seriously as other forms of media, and it really annoys me when people talk down to bloggers as though they’re somehow less valid forms of fashion media.

    Also, I have only recently come across your blog, so it’s super exciting to know a bit of your background. Love your work, Marie!