4 life lessons learned from Plus Size Fashion and the Community

Marie Denee

To say that I have grown as a full time blogger is the understatement of my life right now. The beauty in that is I am still growing, still learning, and still stumbling over life and it’s little road blocks- but with all this comes life lessons that I had to pause and think about! 

4 life lessons learned from Plus Size Fashion and the Community

I mean things and people come into your life for a reason, season, or lifetime with lessons and nuggets of wisdom, tears, and joy! Without being all mushy (cause I am the queen of mush), maybe because I am NOW on the better side of 30? Maybe. 

But anyways, I wanted to revisit this, update this and share with you over the three and a half years, what I have learned about myself from plus size fashion and the community:

I have my own mental fashion boxes and rules for me 

Interestingly enough, I have my favorites, my tried and trues, and my fall backs in my own fashion situation. I love a good maxi, I hate fuss, I love quality fabric, HOWEVER I am at a place where I am open to trying new things, new outfits, and new looks to expand my own fashion horizon. Pants, Blouses, skirts, and heels. 

While I am out in the blogosphere and the internet perusing the newest and latest in fashion, I am always drawn to my favorites- consciously I am challenging myself to step out of the box! I SWEAR. I even bought pink cropped pants (no pic yet- but I bought them and wore them!), snakeskin pants, leather shitfs… you get the idea! I usually hide my legs, but thanks to a few of yall who harped at me on Facebook- I will show more leg! LOL 

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I am redefining my box and stepping out of it slowly!

I am stronger than I thought I could ever be 

Being a full time blogger is a scary endeavor. I did not have the advantage of working steadily while building up my blog. It was more like job one day and no job the next. Knowing that I wanted to do this and that I lived, breathed, and slept The Curvy Fashionista. There were days where I questioned myself, my motives, and my path. Here I am with a Masters in Marketing and venturing out and bills needed to be paid. Car, rent, insurance, internet, food, cell phone- yeah…. There were moments I wanted to go just one day, week, or month, without crying. 

Looking back, I smile. Seeing how I have grown and trust in myself more is truly a blessing! 

I am never satisfied 

Hehehe. This can be both good and bad; however it is a double edge sword here. See personally, as a Virgo, I am constantly trying to push myself further, improve upon, challenge myself to do and be better… ALWAYS. I hit personal milestones and I am on to the next one. Black Enterprise, Glamour, Ricki Lake? I am already thinking ahead to my next personal goal. I need to sometimes just take time out to smell the roses… 

In fashion, I yearn for plus size fashion to be better than yesterday; to provide more options, silhouettes, cuts, and innovations. The fashion community to be more inclusive, the plus size community to demand more, more plus size fashion. As the seasons change, so should we! Pocket Rocket had such an amazing post about this!

Paying it forward is real 

Nothing feels better than being able to help someone just for the hell of it. I have been quite blessed to have had some amazing women and men around me who have helped me along the way with my endeavors. Selflessly, they have given a hand, an ear, or a referral just because. These actions have not gone unnoticed. 

This is why I try to be as accessible, open, and engaging when someone DM’s me, tweets, emails, or asks for my help! I see this as a way to keep happiness and joy within the world! Honestly! Maybe it’s a bit of the Girl Scout in me, the optimist, or the sign of service- Virgo, but it takes nothing to be nice and help when you can- you never know what impact it can have on someone! 

Thank you my fairy blog mothers, sisters, aunties, within the plus size AND blog community!

These are only a few lessons that I have learned, but some of the most noteworthy ones that I know transcend life AND fashion for me!!!

Q. What lessons have you learned along the way in the most interesting of places? Can you relate to some of these life lessons?


Marie Denee
I am the owner of the Curvy Fashionista, sharing the latest trends and designers in plus size fashion, beauty, and accessories to keep you Curvy.Confident.Chic.! I am goofy, silly, playful, and a handful... but it is all in the name of fashion!
Marie Denee

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Comments

  1. says

    Love this!  I can relate to all of those life lessons you mentioned, especially: “I am stronger than I thought I could ever be.”  It’s such a scary thing to pursue your dream, especially when it doesn’t fall into those conventional careers.  I learned though that all I have to do is conquer one fear at at time and remember that in the end it will all be worth it! :)

  2. Glen says

    I have learned in my many years of full time blogging that there are far more people who say they are on your side than will be there when you really need them.  The lesson learned is to put it out there and those who are with you will be with you without asking a ton of destructive questions.  

  3. assa cisse says

    You are such an inspiration  to many curvy  women out there including myself. I honestly believe that blogging has helped in so many ways. Its like having a family outside of your family.

  4. says

    Girl we love you as you are with all the “mistakes” or whatever you are teaching a whole new generation of women to embrace themselves and be fabulous!  I just want to stop and say that as a fan, reader, soul sister, and fellow Virgo; I can relate to what you are talking about, but Thank GOD you kept pushing through all those trails because now look what the world at large has. I just want to send you lots of love and light over the internet. Keep shining! 

  5. says

    Girl we love you as you are with all the “mistakes” or whatever you are teaching a whole new generation of women to embrace themselves and be fabulous!  I just want to stop and say that as a fan, reader, soul sister, and fellow Virgo; I can relate to what you are talking about, but Thank GOD you kept pushing through all those trails because now look what the world at large has. I just want to send you lots of love and light over the internet. Keep shining! 

  6. says

    I just can’t believe how quickly time flies when you are having fun, or in this case growing. It has been fun to watch your progression. I totally agree with you on the double edge sword for never being satisfied but a happy medium is there. Happy holidays, see you on twitter (although I don’t see you as much as I used too). <3

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