Body Image

Confidence, Sex, and the Plus Size Woman pt.3

You learned so many sexy and curvy girl bedroom enhancing secrets. I hope that by now your love life and confidence is soaring (or talking off)!  I hope you feel like a rock star that can take over the world. Or at least take over the bedroom. The tips in part 1 and part 2 of this series were meant to help you let go of your inhibitions and embrace your inner foxiness.

Denise Bidot for Torrid

With part three, I wanted to give you a few tips on communicating your wants and needs to your partner. You have the curves, you have the skills and now you need to communicate what you want and how you want it. Remember ladies it takes two to tango. The tango is the forbidden dance of love and you must learn to never skip a beat and stay in sync. Thus you must learn to communicate!

  1. The first thing you need to do is talk about the do’s and don’ts in the bedroom.  Get ready to have your partner rock your world!  They love your body, loves you and you most certainly feel the same way.  There should be no secrets and no shyness.  Talk about your fantasies and what you really want to see and feel.  Be honest and don’t be afraid.  They may feel the same way and even if they do not, they know exactly what to stay away from.
  2. The next thing you need to do is if you are trying new things, is to have code words.  Sometimes stepping out of the box can be soooo much fun and liberating but it can also feel a little awkward.  It may even be the first time for both of you.  Code words like yellow for slow down or red for stop will allow both of you to feel comfortable, in control and know that when things need to be brought down a notch or come to an end they will.
  3. Another key thing you must do as a couple, is not to compare yourself.  What happens in your bedroom stays in your bedroom.  I know how tempting it may be to kiss and tell but DON’T!  Why does your bestie need to know what you did with your honey in the bedroom?  You don’t want her knowing those personal details and you definitely don’t want to hear hers.  You don’t want to compare notes.  Different couples make love differently.

By now you should have a wealth of sexy do’s and don’ts, how to’s, and are ready to dive into a special love fest with your partner.  In order to be a curvy and confident woman, you must know and love your body and learn to communicate with your partner. When you have all of these things down there is nothing left but to make love and be happy!

How do you communicate? What ways do you express yourself confidently to your partner? As a plus size woman, have you found your voice, to share your desires?

Bonnielee Cuevas is former NYC Fashion Stylist, and Journalist with a very successful portfolio. She left the fashion industry and is a Lifestyle, Holistic & Sustainable Expert, Humanitarian, and Mental Health Advocate. She has been a successful Entrepreneur for over 13 years. BonnieleeCuevas.Com is where you will find sprinkles of her personal adventures, encouragement through a sustainable, holistic, and positive approach to fill your body, mind, and spirit with pure JOY. She has been seen and featured in (not limited to): CBS Radio Minnesota, Curvy Magazine, Adweek, Business Insider, Fashion School Dail, Oxygen Magazine and named one of Vogue’s Top Influential Social Media Darlings. You may have read many of her articles on sites like: The Curvy Fashionista, Dame Life Blog, Skorch Magazine and Zumba Life Magazine. Her passion and knowledge for style has never left her spirit, and she continues to freelance on the subject. 


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