So, last night was the premier of Fox’s More to Love and before I even had the chance to watch it, being on the West coast, I was already deflated and irritated. Miss Marianne Kirby of The Rotund guested over at The Daily Beast to share her thoughts about the show. I felt she did an amazing job clarifying, identifying, showcasing, and defining her thoughts, views, and opinions, you see- this is not where my frustration lies- if you scroll down to the comments, this is where my heart began to sink!
Everyone is entitled to his or her opinions, and thus I am giving mines, but before I did, I made sure that I sat my tail down to feast my eyes upon women who were un-apologetically curvy, confident with their curves, and chic to the core.
So, fast-forward to the end of the show.
What I wanted the show to be and what it turned out to be pissed me off. There are many issues here that I have a huge problem with, and to make it easy, I am going to itemize them, and I would love your thoughts.
– Why does every woman have to have their weight displayed? We already know they are plus size, why does America need to know those details? Haven’t they heard that you are never to ask a lady her age or weight? It is rude! AND, do you see the weight of the skinny misses on the regular Bachelor shows? NO! So, then why in the world would you display ours?
– I thought the show was about women who are confident in their curves and proud of their beauty? Instead, we got women crying about never having a date, and how this show is all they have. As a woman, we have our moments, but why did they display almost every woman crying and desperate? Was it me?
– What message are they sending to the younger girls and women who already have body issues? This show and its portrayal of Plus Size women only fuels the self esteem issues with messages like, if I am fat, I will never have a date OR if I am fat, I have to be grateful for whomever talks to me- Really???
– Oh- and what is it with all the food close-ups and overtly emphasized food shots? What are you saying? That all big girls sit around tables of food?
Why is it that every plus size centered show displays our weight, our insecurities, a love for food, and very little fashion forward, confident women? Where are the shows that celebrate the plus size woman living her life to its fullest? Going out with her friends- being the spotlight!!! How about that FOX?
And to make matters worse, you have all the ignorant people who dare to tag and blame the plus size woman as a reason for health care costs escalating! (See the Daily Beast’s article)
What I wanted to say is who the hell do you think you are! How dare you portray us as pretty girls who are desperate, depressed, hungry, ill fashioned, and pathetic! I love my curves- I have always been a thick soul sister(thank you sir mix a lot) and will always be. I may go up or down a size or two, but that is life.
And to the women who are on the show who have issues with their body- Ladies, you must learn to love yourself FIRST, before anyone else can love YOU. You have to be able to look into the mirror and know that you are beautiful AND beauty is in the eye of the beholder. SO, if that man you had your eye on does not want to be with you, honey, it is their loss, not yours.
If you have not had a date, girl- you must ask yourself, when was the last time you went out, dolled yourself up, and smiled! Confidence is SEXY!
I could write for hours but what I must ask you to do is share your thoughts and then participate in the survey that the lovely Gigi Biggins created to send to the producer of Fox’s More to Love.
Take the Survey here!
Also, did you catch Mia Amber on CNN sharing her thoughts about it? Stay tuned, I will have transcripts for you!
Keep it Curvy.Confident.Chic.